Sage Sayings

365-perfect-things.jpgToday, Heather reviews Maureen Healy’s 365 Perfect Things to Say to Your Kids, a book loaded with a year's worth of sage sayings to help empower, educate, and inspire kids. Read on for Heather’s review, as well as to learn how to be one of two winners to receive a copy of 365 Perfect Things to Say to Your Kids:

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From Heather:

One of the more important lessons my parents taught me as a child was that words are powerful -- very powerful -- and that it is our responsibility to use them carefully and wisely. My parents’ words came rushing back to me as I read the very first paragraph of 365 Perfect Things to Say to Your Kids by Maureen Healy:

“Words have wounded us and healed our hearts. They have empowered us or dashed our dreams. Lives have been lost or saved over simple sayings. The power of words is impossible to fully understand, and no one is more influenced by words than a growing child.”

I was interested in reading this book because as the mom of a 6-year-old and 3-year-old triplets, I find that I am sometimes at a loss for words -- or even worse -- so rushed that I speak before I think. So quick to respond to a question or react to a behavior before comprehending how my words will be received by my children. As Healy so clearly writes, “every child begins to see him or her self through the words of an adult.” I am embarrassed to admit it, but I was really hoping for an easy “parenting for dummies” type book detailing the perfect responses for the great spectrum of situations we face as parents.

Instead, this book provides a year's worth of easy-to-use sayings specially designed to nurture your child's sense of confidence, optimism, compassion, and connection, all categorized into three focused chapters: Empowering, Educating, and Inspiring. This communication guide encourages parents to harness the power of their words and to parent with awareness. It provides the core concepts and encourages us to make them our own. I was pleasantly surprised.

I found the “How to Use This Book” section interesting. Healy makes several suggestions: for example, make it a ritual with your child to read a saying and discuss, use the sayings as a conversation starter, have you child write down sayings in a journal and illustrate them, and use the sayings in circle time if you are in a group setting. Given the ages of my children, I find these practical applications most helpful. We literally must mean the words we say and say the words we mean to empower, educate, and inspire our children.

I recommend this book to all parents, but especially to those who are looking for a guide to positive communication with their children.

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Congrats to winners Jeanine and Judy!
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Now want to be one of two winners to receive a copy of 365 Perfect Things to Say to Your Kids? Here’s how:

  • Visit the Maureen Healy’s Growing Happy Kids website, then email (with ‘365 Perfect Things’ in the subject), and name one of Healy’s Psychology Today articles that resonates with you (scroll down on the main page to view her Psychology Today articles).

  • One entry permitted per person; US and Canada entrants welcome to enter.

  • Entry period closes at midnight EST, Tuesday, January 26, 2010.

    *Two lucky winners will be drawn using